10 tips for cooking with toddlers & preschoolers

how to cook with toddlers, foodlets‘TIS THE SEASON FOR BAKING, and if you’re in the kitchen a lot these days, that’s exactly where your kids–the messy ones who don’t always listen to instructions–want to be. But it can be fun. It’ll be slow and you’ll have flour in places that the white stuff has never seen before but really and truly, you and your little guys can enjoy this time together. Here is how we do it around here.


  • Get Everyone Situated, and Safely. Kitchens are adult-sized, so you’ll need sturdy stools or chairs for the little guys to stand on. I even let them sit on the counter sometimes (shhh, don’t tell the kitchen police). It’s very wide and sometimes easier. Here’s what they want: To see. To see inside the bowl you’re mixing. So get them somewhere that can happen.
  • Arm Yourself with Aprons. Everyone gets one, even me. They keep the kids’ clothes from getting totally ruined and act as impromptu washcloths. Also, they’re festive and signal that something special is happening. It’s officially cooking time.
  • One Wet Rag. I use a damp dishtowel and set it on the counter. We wipe off fingers, especially those that have just cracked eggs and depending on the state of things, wipe down the counter at the end of the project.
  • Garbage/Compost Bin. Put this thing near the action so you’re not running across the kitchen every time you need to throw something away. That may require turning your back on the urchins and that’s when you’ll have trouble.
  • Set Out Ingredients First. Not to get too French on you, but there’s a whole term for this called mise en place, and it means “everything in its place.” The serious cooks–not to mention those on TV–always make sure the baking soda is a. in the house and b. right where they need it before getting halfway through a recipe and cursing themselves for running out. (Then apologizing to the kids, “No mommy didn’t mean to say that. No, you shouldn’t say that. No seriously, don’t ever say that in front of grandma…”)


  • Give Everyone a Task. Glance over the recipe ahead of time and find little pockets of work that little hands can do. Whisking, stirring, helping you pour out a measuring cup, rolling balls, these are some of the easiest things kids can do. Talk them through it ahead of time, or at least in real time, letting them know which parts they get to do. This will matter a lot.
  • Do It Together. For reasons of safety (theirs) and sanity (mine) I often have my toddlers hold my wrist while I’m slicing with a knife, pouring liquids, zesting, grating or anything else that would be nerve-wracking for them to try on their own. It’s totally satisfying for them and less stressful for you.
  • “Hands Up!” What I actually say when I want there to be NO chance of them touching something hot, or sharp or sometimes I do it just to calm things down if it’s getting chaotic. They hold their arms straight up, fingers outstretched and actually think it’s very fun. I think it’s very safe.
  • Encourage Clean Up. About halfway through I like to clear the decks, throw stuff away, wipe down the counter and get our bearings again. It feels good and less hectic. Also, it’s nice to have little people carry bowls and spoons to the sink for you but at the end of all this they may be kaput so don’t get discouraged there.
  • The Rules are the Rules. This is the biggest one so I saved it for last. I’m the most strict with our kids in the kitchen. We have a couple of rules that must be followed or else the little guys just can’t continue. 1. Listen to instructions. No rogue ingredients in the bowl, no grabbing and if I say stop, stop. 2. No whining. There is no crying in the kitchen. My girls have heard this so often they might confuse me for Tom Hanks. If they’d ever actually seen “A League of Their Own”, or really any movie that’s not a cartoon… Anyway, anyone who can’t follow the rules can’t stay in the kitchen, so it’s good to have dad around in case you need someone to escort a renegade cook elsewhere.

You may end up with extra sweets this season which may come in handy. Faster than you can say “Oh! We’re exchanging gifts?” to a mom at the playground you’ll have found yourself in the kitchen WITH your kids AND enjoying it. A tiny Christmas miracle.

Just to get you started, here are some our simplest yet most gift-worthy recipes:


  1. Vanessa says

    Great post! It never occurs to me to bring the garbage closer, but it would have saved my life (well, my cake batter) on more than one occasion. (I’m all for creativity, but watermelon in cake batter is not going to fly). I really like the idea of having your kid’s hands on your wrist while doing the parts they are too young to do. I fly through those parts to keep my 3 year old engaged (and her flour covered hands from wandering). Thanks for this!

  2. Modern Family cooking says

    such a great post! I do many of the same things but definitely refining it after reading this. hands up is great idea. and the wet rag. duh. I’ve been giving my crew (twin 4 1/2 yr olds and 2 1/2 yr old) small butter knives and little cutting boards and having them cut up soft fruit, cucumbers, stuff like that. And having them make their own sandwiches. It can be a total pain sometimes and I sometimes want to beg them to watch tv instead of helping to get it done faster, but it is worth it in the end. hoping it helps instill good food habits and that they will be able to cook for themselves very competently as they get older.

  3. Adin Blankenship says

    I love this post and it is what I do to my two little ones (5 and 2). It was a bit easier to bake when I just had my little man fist, but now I have two and my little girl also loves to help me bake. I always assign them on what to do and take turns. They always get a kick out of mixing thing using an eletric mixer (of course with my help). They think it is some kind of a kitchen toy that whirls around and mixes things in the bowl. It is messy and chaotic when kids are in the kitchen, but sure is cute to see the kids having fun and learning at the same time. I want the two of them to learn cooking and baking too for their own good. It is best when you know how to cook or bake. :) I am thinking of ordering them some kid’s kitchen tool they can use when they help me in the kitchen. I found one online and I think it is called the Curious Chef. Thanks for sharing this one!

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